Someone asked me the other day "Why are you so interested in the dead?" I had to think a bit before responding. The reason is because I could not understand why someone would ask such a question. My response was that the dead need someone on their side. My people we all have to die someday. Although some choose not to identify with death, it is coming to everyone we love and most importantly to ourselves. Why avoid talking about something that you can't avoid? Why would you want a nice send off, but rather not discuss it with others and share what you want? Or better yet why discuss it with a stranger who has nothing to gain rather than carrying your wishes out? Most have a hard time dealing with the loss of a loved one and usually make some wrong decisions.
Don't wait until a loved one dies before starting to make decisions on where or how to put your loved one away forever. Don't you think that we need to make plans for our own burial too? Some never go back to the grave site. Some never talk about that person again. Some never stop grieving. People do all kinds of things while grieving. My people, the best thing that can be done for the dead is to give them a proper burial and a complete secure burial spot forever.
Back to the idea that the dead need someone on their side. Huh. I have spent hundreds of hours visiting hundreds of cemeteries. And let me tell you, most people would like to be in a nice place after they die, a place where their loved ones can come to visit them or to look up on the Net to know where they are. A secure burial place my people. Burial in a tomb is not a secure burial place, unless you are a dignitary. And they too get lost and no one will ever be able to find their burial plot.
Lets not forget about those who don't care about how, where or what happens to them after death. That's their choice.